Thoughts on not dating until I was 21

I’m one of those weirdos who never dated until they were an adult. At this point, I’m starting to think that was better for me.

A little background first. I was homeschooled, and although I went to a small co-op all through high school, my dating pool was somewhat… shall we say, limited. There were a few cute guys around, but either they weren’t interested in me, or I was far too focused on school to notice any interest. So I ended up not dating in high school.

Honestly, looking back at the person that I was then, I’m really glad. I was busy figuring out who I was and learning to make friends again after getting bullied heavily in middle school. I didn’t know what kind of guy I needed or what kind of relationship I wanted. I firmly believe that if I’d dated back then, one of us would have ended up with our heart broken.

Speaking of broken hearts, getting one seems to be a general expectation for life as a young person. I’m not sure why, but our society seems to expect young people to go through break-ups and get their hearts broken. My guess is that it probably has something to do with the fact that a lot of teens and even younger kids do date.

Kids and teens are dumb. That’s just a fact of life. I was dumb then too. If you stick two young and dumb people together that early in life, it seems inevitable that someone’s going to get hurt. Thankfully, I avoided that.

Now, I’m not saying it was all sunshine and roses. I was lonely a lot of the time and after I was single for, oh you know, all my life, I started really wanting someone to love. But after all that, finally finding that person is all the more sweeter for the waiting.

It’s wonderful getting to be with someone as mature as I am. Sure, we can be goofy and playful at times, but at the same time, we can avoid the petty, immature, angsty teen stuff that we’d have been going through if we had been dating in high school. High school is an scary time, and adding dating someone just as young and inexperienced as you on top of everything else you are going through can put a lot of pressure on a person.

I want to say that there’s nothing inherently wrong with dating when you’re younger. For some people, it can work out. But for many more the pressure of life as a teen ends up being more than enough to force a break-up.

So if there are any younger people out there reading this blog and you’re feeling bad because you’ve never dated anyone, stop. There’s nothing wrong with waiting until you are older. One day, you will understand more about yourself, your beliefs, and what you need in a significant other.

And trust me, when you do find that special person, it will be all the more amazing for having waited.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Highs and Lows

My life feels a bit like a roller coaster right now. Up, down, up, left, right, up, down. The good news is that I like roller coasters. I tend to do very well under ridiculous amounts of stress. Still, I’m looking forward to the summer. I’ll have 9 days at the end of the semester before I have to pack up and go to camp. Hopefully they’ll be 9 lazy days.

The first high of the last week or so was that I finished my video project for my honors psychology class and it looked pretty cool. My partners loved it, and I liked it. Probably could have done a bit more work on the sound, but it was a psychology class, not a production class. My low for this one is that the professor still hasn’t graded it a week later. I really hate waiting for grades. It just hangs a weight of stress around my neck that won’t go away until I get the grade.

Next, I’ve got my video production class, where the biggest project will be due in like a week and a half. My team (yeah, a team project totally makes everything easier) is doing fine for time, but it’s hard to get everything done when we’re trying to work around everyone’s hectic schedule. So that class is equal parts exhilarating and terrifying.

I’m in the same boat for my audio class. I have another team final project that is due at final exam time. I’m not as worried about this one as in the video class, but it’s just another thing to try not to worry too much about. I haven’t had the chance to study for the final exam too much in this class, so that’s not helping matters.

Of course, there’s the big high of the week. I released my new short story on Amazon a few days ago for only $0.99. As of this writing, a total of 8 people have bought my book. I can’t tell you how happy that makes me. People actually paid money to read something that I wrote. Cool.

On a slightly lower note, I had a friend come up to me last week and ask if I could help her with a biology project that apparently needed filming. I told her sure, if I was available. It seems that I am. Hopefully, I can do what she needs me to. I’m not the greatest of cinematographers, but I think I can help her out.

Like most college students around this time of the year, I’m tired most of the time. I’ve never been able to sleep well, and now I have run out of my usual sleep aids. I’m trying to get to bed earlier, but I’ve got so much to do that I haven’t been able to.

Up, down, left, up, down, up. It’s crazy right now, but the end is in sight. I just have to hang on for three more weeks, and then I’ll have a little break.

And then it’s off to summer camp and a whole new bag of highs and lows.

EDIT: I completely forgot another area of stress. I’m busy trying to deal with finding an apartment with two of my friends. We’ve already settled on a place, so now we’re trying to finalize things and make sure we did everything right. Sheesh. Adulting is hard.

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Life Update: March 2016

I’m sorry I’ve been absent for a while. Things have been pretty crazy lately, and I haven’t been able to figure out how to talk about it.

First off, as you’ve probably noticed, the world has been a bit nuts lately. We’ve got terrorist attacks what, every day now? Horrible as it is, I’ve lost count of how many we’ve had and how many families have been torn apart by this insanity. I hate that I’ve gone numb to this kind of thing.

This election cycle has been crazy too, which can mostly be explained with one word: Trump. I don’t even know where to start on this one. The GOP’s frontrunner is a reality television star with a bad attitude and horrible hair. I keep waiting for him to just laugh and say that this was all a big joke and people were never supposed to take it so seriously.

It started out so well. We had conservative powerhouses like Ted Cruz and Rand Paul. We had an articulate business woman, a brilliant,  world renowned African American brain surgeon, a few governors, and a senator or two. And now we have… an old, selfish oompa loompa who lives cares about winning at any cost. And Ted Cruz. And Kasich, I suppose. I can’t even comprehend how this happened.

And then there’s the Democrats. I mean, there’s only two of them, but wow are they interesting. Did you ever imagine that an actual self-avowed socialist would be incredibly popular in the United States of America? Did you ever think that the top candidate for any party could stay at the forefront despite record dissatisfaction ratings and an ongoing FBI investigation?

How did this happen?!?

*deep sigh*

Okay, I can calm down. This isn’t the end of the world. We’ll be alright.

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On a personal note, I’ve been incredibly busy, but I’ll give you the Cliff Notes version.

Compassion International came to Convocation a few weeks ago, and my prayer group decided to sponsor one of the kiddos. This is the one we picked.

Grumpy kids are my weakness.

I’ve been doing a lot of archery. I just got a brand new bow. It’s a white Samick Polaris. I have named it North. Because it’s a Polaris. I’m so creative.

I finally stopped snapping my arm with the string every practice, but not before I got a three inch bruise on my forearm that left me unable to wear my watch for a week. One of my fingers went numb for a about two months. That’s pretty much back to normal now.

I went to a national indoor competition where I got first place at the regional tournament and ranked fifth nationally. Not bad considering that I just started this past semester and literally all of my equipment, with the notable exception of my hat, was less than two weeks old. My string actually broke right before the competition started. Luckily, I had an extra, but I was still a little frazzled the first round.

I watched the Super Bowl. It was fun, I guess. I cheered for the Broncos on the advice of Facebook. I felt pleased with my choice after watching how the QB of the other team acted.

Like I said above, I have been incredibly busy. Before Spring Break, I literally had about three weeks where I got up at 8 or 9am, worked straight through the day, and then went to sleep at midnight or later with no relaxing time in between. I had papers out the wazoo, a couple of tests, and ALL OF THE PROJECTS.

I didn’t actually even get to go back home until Wednesday of Spring Break week because I had to finish an audio project.

But the break was fun once I got the chance to go home. I took two of my friends with me. We only had three days, but we packed a lot into them. We went to the beach, the mall, and the aquarium. Overall, even though I got less introvert time than I probably needed, it was a great break. It was better than last year anyway, when I spent the whole break in bed with a concussion.

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Marijke, Elizabeth, my sister, and me at the VA Beach Boardwalk.

I suppose I should mention that I turned 20 on March 9. I am officially no longer a teenager.

That’s about it, I think. This is the first time I’ve had time to blog in quite a while. Hopefully, I’ll get another one up before three months go by, but y’all know my record.

See you again soon!

P.S.  I’ve started a new review series on my other blog. You should check out the first review: In Search of Effort: “Good, Good Father” Review

Life Update July 2015 (Sorry I’ve been missing for three months)

Hello y’all! I wanted to let you know I am not dead. I know I haven’t been on to update in a horribly long time, but I am still alive. I haven’t posted anything since March. Sorry. I’ve been a bit busy.

For starters, I had the end of my freshman year to finish up. I was still dealing with a lot of my concussion symptoms while I took finals, which is, by the way, not fun. But even with the concussion, I still did pretty well. I got all As except for one class, and I’m still not over that one. A lifelong A streak ruined by an art class… Well, graphic design, but you get the idea. Let’s just say the professor wasn’t the best… or good at teaching at all.

Whichever.

After classes were over, I had about two weeks at home before I had to fly up to Massachusetts for my summer job. During that time I went to the doctor, because my brain still wasn’t, and isn’t, working quite right. I had to get an MRI, which turned out fine, by the way. I guess I can cross “stick head in giant magnet” off my bucket list. I still have about a year of memories prior to my concussion that I just can’t remember, so I’m probably going to have to go see another doctor when I get back home. Ugh.

Anyway, summer job. I’m currently at a KOA (Kampgrounds of America) in Middleboro, Massachusetts. I am working with a ministry called Summer Shine. Basically, they send out Christian college students to random KOAs across the country to run activities for the kids and share the love of Jesus.

I’m having a blast here in the state of my birth (yes, this southerner was born in Massachusetts… in a blizzard). One thing I can say is that I didn’t expect so much of a culture shock, but things really are very different in the North versus in the South. Basically, I never want to live in any state above Virginia, ever. Give me South Carolina any day.

Not everything is roses and fun here, though. We’ve all had a lot of trials. The people are very different here, and some of them can be hard to love, but that’s one thing we’re all getting a lesson in this summer.

I finally got a chance to get into the city of Boston yesterday. We’re only about 45 minutes to an hour away. One of the girls on my team and I walked the entire Freedom Trail. It’s about 5 miles to walk the whole thing and then walk back, but it’s totally worth it if you’re a big history buff like me. Most of the sites along the route were free, with the exception of Paul Revere’s house, the Old South Meeting Hall, and the Old State House. I did pay the three bucks to go in Paul Revere’s house, but I wasn’t willing to pay 10 bucks or more for the other two. I was kinda bummed out on that account, because I wanted to see those in particular, but it was okay. My favorite part was probably either the printing shop or the Bunker Hill Monument.

That’s about it up till now. If you’re the praying type, I ask that you pray for mine and all of the Summer Shine ministries across the country. I know we’re not the only ones having a hard time sometimes.

Hopefully I remember to post again before 3 months go by again. No promises, though. 