I usually try to distance myself from arguments concerning gay marriage. I mean this literally. As long as gays are not bothering me and they aren’t trying to force something on me, I don’t care what they do with each other. However, after having my Facebook news stream assaulted by pro-gay-rights advocates, they are starting to bother me. Therefore, this post shall sum up, in a nutshell, my views on gay marriage.
First, I want to stress that I will mainly talk about gay marriage from a Biblical perspective. I don’t want to mention the Constitutionality of the issue. I don’t believe in the first place that courts should have the right to regulate marriage. I want to explain why Christians should not back gay marriage. It shocks me that Christians can even consider supporting gay marriage. Homosexuality in general goes against the Bible in every way.
Let me begin there with a simple question. Did you know that many people are unaware that homosexuality is a sin? A recent survey from Nashville based LifeWay Research asked people if they believed that homosexual behavior is a sin. An astonishing 45% said no. 37% said that is was, and 17% said that they just didn’t know. Perhaps these numbers are not quite as astonishing as they look, given the decline in moral values this country has been going through. However, no matter what the public may think, the Bible is very clear on this issue.
The Bible states many times throughout the New and Old Testament that being gay is an immoral and unnatural sin. Don’t believe me. Look it up for yourself. Leviticus 18:22 calls it an “abomination.” In Roman 1:26-27, Paul warns that men and women who give up “natural relations” will receive “due penalty.” 1 Corinthians 6:9 also mentions homosexuality. It is very clear to me and hopefully to anyone who wishes to study the Bible on this issue that God deems homosexuality as aberrant and wicked.
My next point is on the subject of marriage. Many do not think that it matters one way or the other whether gays or lesbians marry or not. However, Christians should know that marriage is sacred as stated in Hebrews 13:4. Although the Bible never directly addresses the concept of gay marriage, it does make it very clear that marriage should be between a man and a woman. Verses such as Ephesians 5:23-33 always speak of a man and his wife, not a man and his partner. If anyone were to upset that dynamic, his or her actions would be considered sinful. On a more logical basis, I believe that if God had intended for gays and lesbians to marry, then He would have given Adam a choice. Instead, he gave him Eve, a woman. If God had meant for gays to marry, He would have made it so that a man and a man could procreate, but they can’t and neither can a woman and a woman. Men and women were made purposefully to complement and to need each other.
One defense I’ve heard for gay marriage is that it is wrong to not allow them the same rights. However, homosexuals do actually have the same rights under a civil union, which is not marriage. They are not harmed in any way by not being married. I have personally been told that not letting them marry is discrimination. How can it be discrimination if they have the exact same rights as a married couple? Many have likened the fight for gay marriage to the Civil Rights Movement of the 60s. However, the movements are very different. I disagree with gay marriage on religious principle, not because they are any particular race. There was no logical, or more importantly, Biblical reason for denying that blacks could marry each other or whites. In fact the Bible supports interracial marriages. For example, Moses married a Cushite (Ethiopian) woman. If I had been alive in 1967 when the Supreme Court ruled that blacks could marry whites, I would have cheered.
I have also heard that it is detrimental to the feelings of gays and lesbians that can’t marry. They say that “love is love,” and no one should stand in the way. The best response I’ve heard to this came from one of my friends. He said, “And God is God.” This means that feelings are not important if God deems an action a sin.
One gay-rights advocate told me that I shouldn’t care whether they sinned or not, because it wasn’t my sin. My response was, “Are you kidding me?” If we say that it doesn’t matter if other people sin, it’s just like saying it’s okay for other people to sin. If it was okay to sin, then there would be no reason to outlaw murder. Sinning is wrong. If we accepted that sinning was okay, then we could theoretically be perfect, and the Bible states that “All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.” If we were perfect, then we would never have needed Jesus to save us and that he did not need to die on the cross. Saying that sinning is fine is the same as saying that Christ’s death was in vain.
I’d like to end this monologue on a thoughtful note. I believe that we should be careful to be respectful when discussing this topic with someone who does not believe the same as we do (if you agree with me). Although the Bible states that homosexuality is a sin, it also teaches us that we have to love our neighbors. This topic and others like it can bring out strong feelings that are hard to suppress. We must learn to make our point without name-calling or being rude. As I recently learned, the best way to argue is to pick a topic you feel strongly about and argue as if you didn’t. This means staying professional and cordial on the outside no matter how worked up you get on the inside.